Through the Looking Apps

One of the only SFW pics that dating apps did NOT try to pull down claiming as "too sexy".

​“Hi my name is Tink and I’m a (something something) year old woman who is starting to date.”

I had been sitting with my partner having a bite to eat and telling him how I wanted to give myself grace as this whole “dating” thing is new to me. When he looked a bit suss at my statement, the words above popped through my head.

I smiled sheepishly. “It’s true’, I insisted, ‘I don’t have a lot of dating experience!”

Now anyone who knows me, would probably ALSO give me the side eye on this proclamation. After all, the relationship I’m in currently is not my first one by a LOOOOONG shot. And if you’re feeling a bit lost right now, let me get you up to speed on the silly wonderful fabulous situation I call “my norm”.

For those new to me, my name really IS Tink, and I am a polyamorous, bisexual, full time adult entertainer, and currently a software engineering student. My partner and I recently moved in together and BOTH of us date…separately. 

​So I’m about as far from virginal newbie at amorous entanglements as you can get. My past romances include multiple open relationships. (As well as some monogamous ones. Although not generally my preference.) But not since high school have I actually “dated”. The reality of my love life is a bit different from the traditional POV the apps promote…

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